Brittny Henderson was in 10th grade when she started going out with Max*, a senior who was a starting running back on the football team.He was her first real boyfriend, and she was psyched. Suddenly, Max needed to be in constant contact with Brittny.“It was amazing to like someone and have him like me back,” she remembers. Max started telling Brittny that her friends were a bad influence and that his friends couldn’t believe he was slumming it by being with her. He’d drive her home from school, go to football practice, then head back to her house.“I had butterflies when he was around.” For the first few months, Brittny and Max did all the normal couple stuff—Max even walked Brittny to her classes. After he left, he’d call her while he was driving home, and they’d talk until they went to sleep.Your partner’s cell phone provider gives it up too easily: In the contemporary digital world virtually everyone has a cell phone but not all cell phone providers are created equal.“It’s a little know secret that certain cell phone companies require a huge deposit if you have poor credit,” says financial expert, Tiffany “The Budgetnista” Aliche.“As a result, those with bad credit are often forced to sign-up with providers that have lower standards because they make allowances for customers with a poor credit score.” According to Aliche, such red flag providers include Sprint, AT&T, Metro PCS and prepaid services.While just having an account with any of these companies doesn’t automatically mean someone has bad credit, it’s worth consideration before adding anyone to your friends and family plan.
If you expect fate to drop a man in your lap, you don't see how many have already landed around you. Especially if you date a lot, you have to be good at making gracious exits or drama will follow you everywhere and ruin your game.
Max’s outburst confused Brittny, but she didn’t understand that she and Max were starting down a dangerous road.
Although she would never have described it this way at the time, their relationship had become abusive. Whether it happens in a serious boyfriend/girlfriend situation or with a girl or guy who is just a casual hookup, dating abuse is a serious problem.
Though there’s no surefire way to never make a mistake, paying attention to signs we’re en route to bad decisions can help us switch course before it’s too late. This can help us get in touch with our fears about what’s in store for us and assess whether the threats we perceive are actually realistic (this worksheet can help too).
Be prepared to step back if you encounter these six major red flags. No matter how overblown our apprehensions (your boss might not have it in for you after all, nor might your S. be cheating), clarifying them helps clue us into who we are and what we need, Carmichael says.