It's not always easy to tell the difference between a guy who's seriously into you and one who's wrapped up in the moment. Lust is a powerful thing, and some men will do just about anything in the sweet spot between "nice to meet you" and "sex." Closing the gap between point A and B can be a goal some men pursue with the same vigor as Roger Federer practicing for, playing in, and attempting to win Wimbledon, for example.
They may get carried away and act like you're the be-all and end-all, only to lose interest or show their true colors as soon as you sleep together.
So someone who has trouble committing may fear losing options.
But every decision we make in life, by definition, means losing other options.
In fact, she's known for helping women weed out the wrong men right on the first date.
In order to do that, she devised a way to tell whether a guy wants the same things as you, which should be the foundation of any long-term relationship (we discussed it here on Smitten a few years ago).
Is a battle of chores tearing your relationship apart?
For our prehistoric ancestors it was a stout club and a warm cave (Stop it!
They’re not euphemisms) that guaranteed a surge of affection.
Take Nigel, for instance:"It's not that I don't love her, because I do! In this piece, I want to explore exactly what fear of commitment is, why it might have arisen, and, vitally, how to overcome it.
But every time she even hints about a long-term future together, I feel cold and sick to my heart. At the heart of all fear is the dread that something might be lost.